It has taken some time for me to finally write this blog and I must say that it is the most difficult writing I have ever done. My life's expectation came to a halt one day when I was minding my own business on social media and I kid you not, I heard the Holy Spirit speak to my heart “don’t do it.” I brushed off God’s warning and I ended up hurting in ways that I could never imagine. It's very hard for me to accept rejection and un-acceptance and that was my initial thought that day. However, I have given my hurts and my pain to the Lord and I understand now that this is a season where He will be ministering to me in ways that I cannot explain right now, but I know that the result of the season will produce a bountiful harvest from me submitting to the Lord.
I think many of us have been in similar situations as I, where you have been a relationship and it suddenly comes to an end. You quickly forget about all the good times together and you are reminded of the crushing blow that you and that person are no longer together. So yes, for days and maybe weeks you do not want to go anywhere because you are just devastated. You don't want to pray, you shut out everyone including God. Your phone stays on silent and then you just start to keep your mind busy. You work harder, you pick up things to do so you don’t have time to think. But then, that time comes when you finally have to confront the issue.
I think many of us can relate when I say that trying to trust God is hard sometimes, especially after a breakup. I cannot tell you how many times I have had my heart broken from fail relationships and situation-ships (yes I made that word up...sort of). But God has been faithful in healing me from the emotional pain that I was feeling at the time. I believe that even through our tears God feels our pain. We have to remember that God is all knowing, He sees all and He hears all. The silent tears are enough to move God closer to us even when we do not realize it.
A few months ago, I heard the Holy Spirit speak this scripture in my heart that many of us are familiar with:
Trust God with all of your heart and all of your mind and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path. Proverbs 3:5-6.
I love how God is a comforter in the pain and reassure us that He is our God and guide in this life. He is able in intercept the situation and allows us to invite Him in.
You see we have at some point been hurt by someone and at the time felt so broken because we start to ask God where are you? Let me be the first to remind you that He has always been there. I mentioned that we have to invite God in the situations. I will like you to take the time to study these verses below:
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and My burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
Behold I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, and I will come into him and he with Me. Revelations 3:20
If you are anything like me, you are probably wondering how will this be possible; I lost someone who I thought was going to be my future spouse. Let me tell you, I do not know God’s plans because He already had the blueprints for our lives before we were even formed in our mother’s wombs, but I do know that we can lay it at the feet of Jesus. If more people were willing to surrender the hurts to God instead of using it as a coping mechanism, do you know the dynamics of how we approach God will be totally different?
I remember being at work just being completely distraught, I could not focus on anything . I was literally in my office crying all day and on my way home my dad knew something was wrong. He kept picking at it and I kept thinking about it and the tears just poured out of me. I mean the really ugly cry where you can’t breathe, you can’t see and you need a bunch of Kleenex to blow your nose. But I’m not longer a hot mess. I have surrendered the hurts and pains to God. I literally had to remind myself that the man God has for me, I will know because there will be no questions or confusion.
I’m telling whoever is broken to lay it God’s feet but in order to do that you have to invite Him in the brokenness. Do not try to get it all together on your own because you will be trying to do that forever, instead give it to Jesus today. Do not wait at all. Forgive that man or woman and day by day, I promise you that you will find healing in Jesus. I’m a living example of this and you can be as well if you invite Him in.
Only you know who is hurting and dealing with heartbreak right now Jesus. Lord, I know you are a healer because you have healed me numerous of times on many occasions, so I pray for that brother or sister right now that they invite you into the brokenness. Lord, you are the Creator you mentioned in your scripture that we are clay and you are the potter, so we can make new in you if we trust you, Lord. Help us now Jesus trust and lean on you more than ever and that we don’t lose focus on you. It’s all about you despite our situations. In Jesus name, Amen.
My name is Denisha Rue and I was born and raised in Detroit, MI. I gave my life to Christ in 2007 when I was 16 years old but I didn't truly surrender my life until 2013. Jesus has truly saved me from a life of rebellion I love Christ and my life has radically changed when I said yes to the calling. I enjoy coffee, contemporary Christian music, reading and writing.