Daphne Benford-Smith

Social Media Addiction Is REAL

Daphne Benford-Smith
Social Media Addiction Is REAL

Social media says I'm worthy, right? I have 100 likes on my picture. I must be somebody. But wait, she has 200 likes and that other girl has 300 likes. Even better, that girl over there has over a 1000 likes on all of her pictures and I struggled to get that 100. I put on more make up than I usually do. I made sure my curls and brows were on fleek! I made certain that my dress was nice and snug to show off my curves. Maybe I'm just not as pretty as her. Maybe more guys want her. Maybe she's just overall better than me. If I'm going to be better than her, I need more. 

Social media says I'm worthy, right? I get a lot of people of the opposite sex in my DM's trying to "shoot their shot". I even have people of the same sex looking up to me and perhaps hatin on me because I'm becoming popular on here! A lot of people ask me for my phone number because they see my pictures and my Christianese tweets. I get a nice amount of retweets and favorites. But wait, that person has more followers than me. I worked hard to get into the 700-1300 range and they have 2000 plus with ease! I see way more ladies or fellas retweeting them and "choosing" them. And here it is I'm working hard to make sure I have humorous and thought provoking tweets that everyone can relate to. I need more. 


Social media says I'm worthy, right? I got tired of getting on Facebook and seeing everyone getting in a relationship, engaged, or married. So I hopped into a relationship with someone who isn't really saved. I mean, they go to church right? They say they love the Lord, right? I mean so what if they drink a lil’ too much here and there? So what if they party here and there? So what if they curse a little too much? I don't care. I don't want people to think I can't keep a man/woman. I don't want to be seen as "too ugly to get someone". I want to take cute pictures of our romantic getaways and create posts of all of these cute words and gestures they say. I just wasn't happy single and posting about being by myself. I needed more.  

That's what it boils down to, right? Our need for more. I have fallen into this trap folks. These accounts, though some (if not all) of you can relate, are thoughts and situations from my own life. I have been there, and am still there to an extent. We go to social media thinking that it will provide more, and to some degree social media has played on that by pretending that it can offer that fulfillment. The thing about cocaine is that one doesn't become an abuser by just snorting the stuff one time and leaving it alone. No, it becomes a problem because they "need" more. That's the justification for the addiction. That's the justification for looking to social media for worth. "We need more". I'm here to tell you folks that if you keep going to that well, you will always thirst. You will ALWAYS need more. Because its effects are temporary, and we compare ourselves to other people who may seem to have more. So, we thirst for more.  

"Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life." -John 4:13 

"For in him the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily, and you have been filled in him, who is the head of all rule and authority." - Colossians 2:9 

"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." - Psalm 139:13-14 

"Also, he has put eternity into man's heart..." Ecclesiastes 3:11

These scriptures are telling us that our worth comes from Christ. That the need for more that we have can only be filled by God! Only in Him can you find all of the love that you're needing, not the temporary and fleeting pleasures from social media.  

The funny part about it is that the enemy has even used social media to attack our witness and ministry. We see other people gain a ministry on social media, so we covet that attention and start "creating ministries", "blogs", and the "like" because we feel as though we are unworthy of a beautiful purpose by God. He created you as the Psalm mentioned above states, and he didn't create you just to sit you on this earth and say "that's it". He created all of us with a purpose, and it's up to us to take our eyes off of everyone else and focus them on Him. He will show you his purpose for you and prepare you for it and ultimately, He will bless it in his own time. But for now, it's time for us to put off this lust for attention and affirmation. Christ affirmed you in his death and God has affirmed you from the beginning. You are beautiful and no amount of likes, favorites, retweets, or whatever can take that away from you or add to it. We are made in His image and there's nothing more beautiful than God. 

Fulfillment is found only in his love that never ever runs dry.

Daphne Benford-Smith

Daphne Benford-Smith is a proud member of UI Dallas, who recently completed her degree from the University of North Texas. She enjoys using her talents of writing to write songs and blog posts with things the Lord has placed on her heart.