When Will I Be The Bride?


Most of my life I have never not been without somebody. Even if the person wasn't all that wanted or was attracted to, I still dated him. This stemmed from my need to feel complete; to feel whole and needed. I felt broken and incomplete without a boyfriend. Honestly, I felt incomplete because I didn't have many friends. This need to be needed crippled my ability to see all I needed was He, Christ Jesus.

The more I sought to know and understand truth, my brokenness had become more apparent, like potholes in the road. Now that I know better, I am re-patching my life applying these new cloths of knowledge and understanding. I am content with loving me for a change. I am satisfied with chasing God.

Chasing God

In God there is much fulfillment to be discovered and attained. As the knowledge of the Lord begins to expand in your heart so will the love of God. The love of God will supply you with more than you ever asked or get from another person, place, activity or thing. 

The love of God supplies you with a sense of security. For example, I never have to worry about today or tomorrow. Scriptures says, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11)."

The love of God supplies you with joy. I still have joy even when things are sketch. Scripture say "For the Joy of the Lord shall be my strength." God is the source of our gladness, not anyone, thing, place, or activity. 

The Love of God supplies you with peace. Scriptures say, "I am leaving you with a gift - peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid."

By the love of God we know who we are and why we were formed. We are copies of God (formed in his likeness). Scripture says, "So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them (Gen. 1:27, NLT)." Another scripture said, "For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes. There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus (Gal. 3:26-28, NLT)." 

  • What does one mean? "Of the same or having a single kind, nature, or condition." In other words, having the same single kind, nature, and condition as God.
  • What does nature mean? A few things: 1) The particular combination of qualities belonging to a person, animal, thing or class by birth, origin, or constitution; native or incoherent character. 2) Instincts or inherent tendencies directing conduct. 3) Character, kind, or sort. 

Let those definitions sink in...All in all, our identity is in Christ. When we accept Christ into our lives, we put him on. We put on the particular combinations of qualities, his character, his tendencies and become Christ natives. 

The love of God supplies us with LOVE. Scripture says, "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends." In the story of Jesus Christ we know that he laid down his life for us. Since we are grafted into his family, he calls us friends and as a friend Jesus gave his life that we might be saved and have eternity to be with him, how great a love?

Renewed Mindset

I am satisfied with the love that God has poured out on me. From dying for me, to advocating on my behalf even after his death and showing me his grace and mercy, I look to be satisfied by no one person, place, thing or activity. God completes me. All that I need is supplied. I have my joy, I have my love, I have my peace, I have my security, I have my identity. I am filled with the Holy Spirit (who said you were empty without this or that?). Fulfillment is within not without.



The purpose of this post is to show you that you have all that you need through Christ Jesus. Scriptures say, "You have been given all things that pertain to life and godliness (1 Peter 1:3). 

The things you sought to gain by marriage and being in relationships are all supplied by God and his Holy Spirit. Scriptures say, "Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need (Matthew 6:33, NLT)."

Once you can see that God is there, by whom you are satisfied (Matt. 6:33), you will no longer enter into relationships for the sake of filling a void (a void loneliness, love, security, identity, feeling whole, and feeling accepted) because all of that is covered through the gift of God, Christ Jesus.

Written By: Erica B. Ehiwe | UI Public Relations Director