I respect all people choices and their decisions, yet at the same time their choices and their decisions should not become my own. Last night as I was preparing for bed I heard the Holy Spirit tell me that I seek approval from all people but God. At first I was going to defend myself and deny it but then images of the day and even weeks and months seem to come at me all at once. How convicting. You see, sometimes I allow people to tell me what's good for me without asking God what's best. The same goes with me being single.
People have this misconception when it comes to being single. They view singleness as a time of being lonely and boring and perhaps because maybe while they were single they weren't content with being single and now that they are married or in a relationship they have all the advice in the world. Now again I respect people and their choices but again I don't have to accept it. I was reading a saved article*** that was a letter written to single women from a single man and he caption one of his titles out of five as "being single is not a curse, it's a blessing." And immediately in my spirit I rejoiced! The people around me have no idea how long I have accepted and been content with embracing my singleness, and I'm not ashamed to say that I'm single and proud. Some very key Christians were single their whole lives. Why must we allow a status define our identity? If you are not willing to go through a season with no one but God then you won't be willing to go through a season in a relationship let alone a marriage. Let me share my what Paul had to say about marriage and singleness,
There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.
I Corinthians 7:34
Now this verse is for women who are in Christ, not women of the world. See my focus is getting right with the Lord. Sure marriage looks amazing but I know it takes work! I don't want an amazing wedding and afterward have a horrible marriage. My focus is on Christ because when Christ returns, He is coming back for His brides who are without blemish. He will be looking for those who hearts are turned to Him, not temporary marriages. Now I'm not bashing marriages at all, marriages are to be sacred and treasured. I want my relationship with Christ to be sacred and treasured.
This is my time to do things I would not possibly ever do if I were married. Now I am a believer in submitting to my husband. If I'm not submissive to Christ then how am I going to be submissive to the man God brings in my life? You see people see only "oh you will be so lonely! You'll be that woman who have twenty cats in a small house if you’re not married by a certain time!" Let me tell you, if I didn't know who I was in Christ I would listen to these things I hear on almost a daily bases. Shut those voices that clearly aren't of God and listen to God. Everyone and I put myself in this as well, will think they are doing you a favor by giving you advice about what you should and shouldn't do. Don't get me wrong after seeking God first and being led by the Holy Spirit, THEN you decide how to respond to those giving you advice. Don't just listen to everyone around you.
Obviously I'm still single because I refuse to settle. I hear amazing stories from people who through patience and trusting God, they were married. Some in their twenties and some older than thirty. All I'm saying is, if it's God will for me to even be married it will happen. However, if it's not His will that's okay because I serve a faithful God and if I'm single for the rest of my life because God rather me spend all the time in the world with Him, at least I'm married to someone who won't let me drown if I fall. Don't be afraid; embrace your singleness!
Written Denisha Rue
Bio: My name is Denisha Rue and I was born and raised in Detroit, MI. I gave my life to Christ in 2007 when I was 16 years old but I didn't truly surrender my life until 2013. Jesus has truly saved me from a life of rebellion I love Christ and my life has radically changed when I said yes to the calling. I enjoy coffee, contemporary Christian music, reading and writing.
My name is Denisha Rue and I was born and raised in Detroit, MI. I gave my life to Christ in 2007 when I was 16 years old but I didn't truly surrender my life until 2013. Jesus has truly saved me from a life of rebellion I love Christ and my life has radically changed when I said yes to the calling. I enjoy coffee, contemporary Christian music, reading and writing.