Romans 7:14-15: For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am carnal, sold under sin. For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. -Paul
Have you ever tried to give your full self to Christ, but couldn’t keep faithful when no one was looking. And no matter how hard you prayed, or how hard you tried to distract yourself with godly intentions, you just couldn’t escape the bondage of your flesh when you were alone. It can become daunting to one’s spiritual experience when you see Christ at the end of your tunnel, but you keep getting tripped up by little distractions along the way. How is it that everyone seems to be doing pretty well in their obedience, except for you? Well my dear, here are 5 things you need to know about the small sinning you do in private.
1. You first need to understand...
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SINNING IN PRIVATE
For nothing is secret that will not be revealed, nor anything hidden that will not be known and come to light. Luke 8:17
It’s easy to get caught up in your flesh’s evil desires when no one else is looking. This is why many criminal acts happen in private. But a robbery or a murder that takes place without an audience is no more pleasing to its victim than if it was done in front of a crowd. Many times, our flesh comes to rob us of our righteousness in attempts to kill our submission to God, giving us false hope that no one sees our actions. The enemy will use your flesh against you, and you are most weak when you are alone. You see, it’s harder to fall for a little porn and gossip, when you're around others, that’s why we crave theses transgressions when we are by ourselves.
But the truth about sinning in private is…There is NO SUCH THING.
God promises to never leave nor forsake us; this is so that we understand that his presence will always be with us. God is everywhere at all times, so you have to remember just because others are not around when you commit a sin in secret, doesn’t mean God isn’t. But this isn’t to make you feel ashamed or awkward. God’s consistent presence is so that we always have a way out.
The eyes of the Lord are in every place, keeping watch on the evil and good. –Proverbs 15:3
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13
2. All Sin Is Created Equal
If I were to go to a mother and ask her how she would like her child to die and give her the options of drug addiction, or overdosing on too much sweets, although one may seem more pleasant, both will equally be painful to her, because it’s not the method, but the death of her child she is concerned with. This is the love God has for us and the hate God has towards sin. All sin will eventually claim our lives, no matter how pretty the transgression may be to us. This is because all sin, whether hate, lust or (insert your transgression) creates strongholds in our lives, which detach us from God and his eternal life. So don’t get lost in the idea that what you are doing “is not that big.”
Many people believe if it’s a “small” sin, then it cannot cause much harm to their lives, but sin isn’t considered small because you think it is. Any continuous habit in sin leads to your demise. What you may consider to be a small sin may be all the enemy needs to disconnect you from God and his everlasting life.
“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” -Roman 6:23
3. Always Remember God's Grace Does Not Expect You To Be Perfect
For it is by grace you are saved, through faith and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God. -Ephesians 2:8
We must fight to be disciplined, but never harsh towards ourselves when we fall short. This is because perfection is impossible to reach while we still exist in this sinful world. No one is perfect. We will find that there will always be something for all of us to work on. Yet many people come into Christianity with the expectation that they need to first become perfect and that they will not sin any more This ideology causes you not to be graceful towards yourself, and creates an ego that is harden towards repentance. When in fact, a Christian and a person who believes they are perfect are opposite ends of the spectrum. Being a Christian does not mean you are perfect, it means you are connected to the one who is.
You WILL continue to make mistakes along the way. So how is it that God expects us to sin no more, when sinning is inevitable? This is because God is not expecting you to be perfect; in fact, because you are not perfect he sent Jesus to die on the cross. What God is expecting is your obedience. When you find yourself falling short of Gods glory, it is expected that you be obedient, you do this by humbling yourself and seeking his refuge.
You have to understand that it is by grace you are saved and not by your own false idea of perfection. God knows that we will fall short. So does this mean sin all you want because you have grace? No! Grace does not equate to tolerance of sin, grace is God’s love to correct sin. In our flesh, we fall short, but obedience towards God doesn’t mean getting it right every time, it’s knowing how to repent when you don’t get it right. With this knowledge of his love, your repentance and healing can begin.
“If my people who are called by my name humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and heal their land.” – 2 Chronicles 7:14
4. Why It's Important To Put On Your Armor
The enemy has no desire for you to live a clean, joyful life. Through Christ we are victorious, but that is only through Christ. This is why the enemy will always give you an option, idea and desire opposed to Gods will over your life. These desires provide options away from Christ and closer to death. Every time you decide to have one more hit of that drug, one more night with that person, or one more watch of that video, you are helping pull the trigger to your own death. Those desires are not for your good, but are attacks on your everlasting life. These attacks happen in your spirit, that way YOU act them out through your flesh.
“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.” -Ephesians 6:12
We wrestle with these desires daily, but thank God, he has provided away to come to a wrestling match, in war attire. PLEASE STUDY
“14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints.”
5. Your Healing Will Come
Sometimes knowing all this doesn’t stop ones continuous habit of succumbing to sin. Your mind can be a very dark space that almost feels impossible to light. But what you must know, Christ came and Christ died for every single big, small, public and secretive sin you may be dealing with. Where he could have said NO, he welcomed it all. Taking all slashes and beatings, for all sins, equally, so that the devil understood, you being in bondage… is finished.
You just have to decide to carry your cross now and every single time you are challenged. Giving yourself grace when you don’t get it right and picking up your cross by having faith in His. Christ went down so that he too will be an option, when you are down and broken. Be Unashamed where you feel you have failed, and choose to live by Gods love that won’t and watch the Impact it will have on your life. LOVE YOU