We’ve all been there. Someone discovers that we’re a Christian and they’ve said something along the lines of, “Oh! So that must mean you don’t do this and you can’t do that…” On top of this, we often see jokes and remarks appear on our social media timelines about Christianity. Here are 5 lies that I have come across, during my life as a Christian, and the truth about them.
It’s about rule keeping
Many believe Christianity is about rule keeping. When one of my work colleagues overheard a conversation I was having with someone about God, he said, “You’re a Christian? So that means you don’t swear? You don’t drink?” Sadly, this response isn’t uncommon.
Christians believe that God’s way of living is best for us and so, we trust Him and try to live as He says. But we don’t live this way in order to be loved by God; God loves the seemingly holiest person on earth as much as He loves the person who can’t seem to go a day without messing up. The reason why we do certain things and don’t do other things isn’t because it’s a requirement; it’s a response. It’s because we love God so much for all that He’s done for us. He has saved us from sin, so why would we want to continue living in a lifestyle that He’s saved us from? We do certain things and refrain from others because we trust that God’s way of living is best; we want to love others and because we want to do our Father in Heaven proud.
The Bible says ‘For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast.’ (Ephesians 2: 8-9). This means that it isn’t by our ‘good rule keeping’ that we are saved and go to Heaven; it is by God’s grace, and His grace alone.
We don’t believe in the supernatural
Some people think that being a Christian means you don’t believe in the supernatural. Ghosts? Nope. Hauntings? No way. Ouija boards? Don’t even go there.
But actually, we believe in the supernatural as much as any paranormal enthusiast. I mean, a third of the Trinity (made up of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit) is in the form of a spirit! However, we do believe in both good and bad spirits. There are countless tellings of demons in the Bible, and many Christians would testify that they have experienced a spiritual attack of some kind, or have seen someone being delivered from a bad spirit. We believe in spirits, but we don’t believe that all of them are from God, or to put it another way, not all of them are good spirits.
But that doesn’t mean we should be afraid! Demons have to leave when we tell them to go in the name of Jesus. They just can’t be in His presence. Jesus is greater than anything else!
We also believe in supernatural healings; again, there are many stories of these in the Bible, and I for one (as have a lot of Christians) have seen many physical and emotional healings; broken limbs being healed, metal plates seemingly dissolving, self-harm scars shrinking, years of panic and anxiety disappearing, and countless more. Our God is a supernatural God!
We can’t be proper scientists
Many Christians believe that God created the world in seven days, but many believe in evolution. Either way, being a Christian does not mean that you can’t be a scientist. I believe that science actually points to how amazing our God is. For me, it shows us how beautifully intricate and purposeful His design is. It shows us how much He cares for us, and helps us to understand just how massive and glorious and wonderful our God is to have brought this whole universe into being. I don’t think it makes a huge difference whether you are a creationist or evolutionist; either way, both can appreciate the wonder of our God.
We can’t have sex
According to a lot of people, the Bible suggests that sex is bad. However, I am here to bring good news: the Bible does not say that sex is bad, and it actually tells us that it is a gift from God. It is good, it is meant to be enjoyed, and it is a beautiful way in which two people can show their love for one another.
However, the majority of Christians do believe that God designed sex to be enjoyed within marriage. Sex creates a strong bond between two people, and we believe that God created it to further cement and strengthen a husband and wife’s relationship within the security of marriage.
During sex, a chemical called oxytocin is released in both individuals. Released in the brain, this hormone is designed to create an emotional bond between the partners. In the right context, this is incredible; a bond is made between the two individuals to make their relationship even stronger. But in the wrong context, it can be more than just heartbreaking, especially when sex is used in a casual manner.
One of the prominent figures in neuropsychology, Dr. Daniel Amen, wrote the following:
“Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage limbic, emotional bonding. Yet limbic bonding is the reason casual sex doesn’t really work for most people on a whole mind and body level. Two people may decide to have sex ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level they might not have decided on at all: sex is enhancing an emotional bond between them whether they want it or not. One person, often the woman, is bound to form an attachment and will be hurt when a casual affair ends. One reason it is usually the women who is hurt most is that the female limbic system is larger than the male’s.”
So yes, we can have sex. Yes, sex is made to be enjoyable, but Christians believe it is made to be enjoyable in the right context. Not all Christians will wait to have sex within marriage, but the majority of Christians will agree that sex wasn’t designed to be casual.
We hate anyone who isn’t heterosexual
Let me tell this to you straight: the church should never, ever say that they hate someone who labels themselves as anything other than straight.
Westboro Baptist Church is totally in the wrong; nowhere in the Bible does it say that God hates gay people. The Bible does tell us that God created man to be with woman, but to suggest that God hates gay people is absurd; it simply does not line up with His character. He loves all of His children with an immense love. As a Christian, it truly saddens me to see such hatred coming from a church that is called to ‘love one another deeply, from the heart’ (1 Peter 1: 22). Furthermore, Jesus teaches us to take the plank out of our own eye before pointing out the speck of dust in someone else’s eye (see Matthew 7: 3-5). This means that we should never, ever judge someone else for their way of living when we haven’t got everything figured out for ourselves, either.
Here’s the thing. What if people thought these lies were true, not out of hate, gossip, or bullying, but because we as Christians have never explained the truth?
Next time someone says something that doesn’t sit well with you, why not try to respectfully explain the truth? You never know what blessings may follow; the more people know the truth about Christ, the better.
Written By Alice Morris
Bio: My name is Alice; I'm 17 and live in a rural part of England. I came to know Christ through a small youth group; I gave my life to Jesus about 5 years ago, and was baptized in July 2015. Jesus has radically changed my life and I learn more about Him every day - more about His unconditional, never-ending, permanent love. I'm a keen musician, and also enjoy writing, whether that is in the form of a blog post or a spoken word. I have a desire to share His love with the world, and am excited about what the future holds! It only ever gets better with Jesus!
Check out some of Alice's spoken word @ YouTube
Alice is 18 and from England. She gave her life to Jesus about 5 years ago, and was baptized in July 2015. She feels that she is called to creative evangelism after receiving many prophecies from various people. She's a keen musician, photographer, writer, and speaker, and she hopes to involve all of these passions when sharing the love of Jesus to the world. She looks forward to moving to a city to attend university, engrossing herself in youth culture and wider communities.