Why me? I cannot even count the amount of times I've said that over the years. Whether I was heartbroken or struggling in a course, that was the first question I'd ask.
Struggling with my grades in college and graduate school, I constantly wanted to give up. Looking around at my peers and seeing how it seemed so easy for them to ace exams, I questioned, "Why me? How come I cannot pass as smoothly as they do?"
So many events can take place in our lives that seem ridiculous or unfair. Sometimes it seems like a never ending story. One thing happens after the other, and it can be beyond frustrating. I know the feeling. When I wanted to give up God showed me it's not about me, but it's about Him.
3 Things I've Learned When I Wanted To Give Up
1. His Work is not finished.
Although we can get easily discouraged when things do not go how we think they should, we have to remember what God’s Word says. It’s easier to look at everything going wrong around us rather than focusing on what we may not be able to see. In difficult seasons, we must remember the wise words King David said to his son Solomon who would be responsible for building the Temple in Jerusalem. Be strong and courageous. God will not fail you. His work is not finished.
"Then David said to his son Solomon, 'Be strong and courageous, and act; do not fear nor be dismayed, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you nor forsake you until all the work for the service of the house of the Lord is finished.'" 1 Chronicles 28:20 NASB
2. Let God Work.
While we may not realize it, God is continuously moving and working despite what we think. No matter what’s going on, it is important to trust in what He is doing. Trust in Him. Have the confidence that He will accomplish everything that concerns you.
"The Lord will accomplish what concerns me; Your lovingkindness, O Lord, is everlasting; Do not forsake the works of Your hands.” Psalm 138:8 NASB
3. God is in control.
We have a tendency to try and take matters into our own hands and sometimes create more stress than was intended. We have to remember to let God work and know He is in control. In the most difficult and stressful situations, when we are ready to give up, we must pray and give those situations to God. When we give our anxiety to God, we will have peace. God is in control and desires us to know that He is.
"Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7 NASB
After finishing school and looking for a job, God truly humbled me. It was all about His timing, not mine. I had my own agenda, but He had His. Sometimes in the most difficult seasons, God prunes us and shows us who He desires us to be. He wants us to trust Him and draw closer to Him. In stressful situations, I used to ask "why me?" God simply answered, "My daughter, Why not you?"
In the midst of your trying times when you want to give up, allow God to show you His work is not finished. Let Him work and know He is in control.
By Ashley A. Johnson