15 Perspectives on Qualities of A Godly Friendship

Over the years of being a Christian I have realized how important it is to have a close network of friends who follow Jesus. The friendship between two Christians is beautiful, precious, and unique; the people who I am most vulnerable with, the people who are willing to sit up for hours at night to pray with me, the people who know me better than anyone else are undoubtedly my Christian friends.

I believe this is due to the fact that at our core, we follow the God who has changed our lives. And when this happens, life takes a new perspective and you realize that it is much more fun, authentic, and rich when your journey is accompanied by your brothers and sisters in Christ. I have laughed, cried, rejoiced, and mourned with my Christian friends. Living life with a close network of Christians surrounding you opens doors to a life unlike any other; it is raw and messy, but yet beautiful.

God made us for community, so what is it that makes a friendship Godly? I asked some of my Christian friends, and here is what they said (I have paraphrased occasionally to make this post a little more concise).

“I think honesty is a key part of a Godly friendship. When you're honest and vulnerable with someone, you create the space to be able to support each other in life and your walks with God.” - Connie

“Accountability, because for me I think that's the marker of a deeper relationship. It's not just about 'confession', but about supporting each other and loving each other when we're struggling and through our failings.” - Sarah F.

“There are lots of answers to this question but the main thing to me about having a Godly friendship is somebody who encourages me in my faith (and hopefully vice versa), and inspires me to be more like Jesus.” - Hannah

“A Godly friendship has the main goal of furthering the kingdom of God; Christian friends work together in the various ministries they are involved in. This includes praying for each other’s works, but also includes advising one another, mentoring, and bearing each other’s burdens (relieving stress, taking on some work etc.) It will also be set apart by the spiritual gifts."

"Christian friends will both have gifts and be aware of them in each other; because of this they'll be more confident and know that they can lean on each other completely. A Godly friendship will reflect the relationship God has with us, so it will (as much as possible) show the signs of true love, a higher level of commitment, more forgiveness, and more self-sacrifice. These things will be sustained by their relationship with God (and will in turn improve their relationship with God, too).” - Martin

“I think the support that you get, both from God for the friendship and from your friend for your faith, is probably the biggest aspect of a Godly friendship.” - Maddy

“Accountability and honesty.” - Rachel Ps.

“I like how we can relate to and understand the issues that are faced by young Christians. It's really nice to have people to talk to who are at similar stages of their journeys with Christ! I think that being able to share the journey of another Christian who understands what it's like has definitely helped me to grow closer to Christ.” - Sarah P.

“Having complete trust in God.” - Verity

“There are benefits of having a Christian friendship. But I think the main one is the bond we have in Christ. We know what forgiveness and grace are, because we have been shown it by our great God! Our deepest sins and regrets have been washed away in Christ. In a Christian friendship, you both know this: the amazing grace that without the cross we cannot understand." 

"This filters through, it produces self-control in our friendships, and it produces selfless love and service to one another. It fixes brokenness when it is present. And it produces an immense joy between the two of you. This joy in the grace we've received helps us power through and work hard during the tough parts of the friendship. The mutual understating in Christ helps us to talk through our disagreements. Having a friend who, like you, has Christ as their King and becoming like Him as their life's goal, is one of the best things about Christian friendship.” - Anna

“Praying for each other while they're there (i.e., laying on of hands) is important, as well as reading the Bible together, but also challenging each other in things that we don’t do that we should do, and vice versa.” Rachel Pr.

“Loving each other.” - Carol

“I’d probably say honesty, trust, that kind of thing. Just being able to be completely open with someone!” - Rachel B.

“For me, the main feature of a Godly friendship is faithfulness…when two people know that he will be there through the good and bad times.” - Lauren

“A Godly friendship is one where you can be real with each other, where you can share your thoughts and your concerns and also talk about what God’s doing in your life. When you spend time with a Godly friend you go away feeling built up and closer to God. It’s somewhere you can be brutally honest about life with someone who knows what you mean, and they will be honest with you too, telling you the truth.” - Charlotte

“Encouragement, accountability (especially in close Christian friendships), authenticity, prayer…I could go on!”Tim

Alice is 18 and from England. She gave her life to Jesus about 5 years ago, and was baptized in July 2015. She feels that she is called to creative evangelism after receiving many prophecies from various people. She's a keen musician, photographer, writer, and speaker, and she hopes to involve all of these passions when sharing the love of Jesus to the world. She looks forward to moving to a city to attend university, engrossing herself in youth culture and wider communities.